Guest Post: How to Bat Above Your League

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Have you ever seen those guys going out with women that are much, much more physically attractive than they are? I was recently re-watching the classic Who Framed Roger Rabbit and wondered how a character like that was able to make Jessica Rabbit fall desperately in love with him? Eddie the detective shares my interest and asks the same question with Jessica simply replying “he makes me laugh”.  There’s that and she also makes the reference later on that he is quite talented as a lover.  But there has to be more than just making a gal laugh otherwise every funny guy walking around would be dating a Jessica Rabbit.  So what other factors are involved how for a guy to convince a girl who is much more physically attractive than he is to date him?

Show off the Goods!

Let’s face it fellas, physical attraction is a very influential factor so its important to know what your best physical qualities are and showcase them.  If you’re tall, be sure to stand straight and avoid slouching in sitting encounters.  If you consider yourself to be in good shape then it may be a good idea to ask if she wants to work out with you.

Wordsmithing

Next would be initiating the conversation.  When speaking with the woman, make sure to sound friendly by starting with a joke or a nice compliment (make sure it’s not too intense). Remember to speak in a confident, definitely not shy and awkward manner.  Keep conversations going with questions and stories that she can relate to, which will lead to her being interested in talking to you a consistent basis.

Timing

After a couple of friendly encounters make a move.  I’m sure you will at this point have an idea of whether she would be up for a night out with you alone but I would almost always suggest you plus your friends first.  That way she can see more good qualities about you and also you can signal your buddies to back off so you can at least have some one on one time.  It is important to get some alone time outside your normal meeting places or else you will end up in the dreaded “Friend Zone”.  My rule for the friend zone is pretty simple.  The greater disparity between physical attractiveness levels, the quicker the friend zone expands.

Personality

Almost every girl will say they would rather have a guy with a great personality versus just being ridiculously good looking.  I agree 100% but the truth is that men and women will keep looking for a mate with a bit of both.  Having an attractive personality can still be a powerful factor.  Position yourself as being a fun loving, positive person.  Just like Roger Rabbit, having the ability to make a girl laugh can the edge you need to beating out those male models you assume she really wants to date.

Remember, batting above your league is an uphill battle.  It requires some great strategy, training and a little luck.  Don’t be offended if you’re turned down.  Physical attractiveness is a heavy influence when it comes to attraction and eventually someone will take notice of your talents.